We all have a need to belong. In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, belonging is smack in the middle of the pyramid, right there with love.
There are a whole lot of moms who do not love their children as we expect mothers to and who do not provide the things a child needs to grow up feeling at home in the world.
Things have changed a lot in recent years. The traditional roles of mother and father aren’t what they were when many of us were growing up – and certainly not what they were in the time of our grandparents and those before them. Today,… Continue Reading “The Special Role of Fathers”
Too often we create home based on what we’ve known and what’s familiar. But that’s not always what’s best. True comfort often requires us to move beyond the past.
The role of the Father—at least archetypally—is to encourage the child to leave home, to have an adventure and discover a new world for themselves. He prepares the child to become an adult and find home separate from Mom.
There’s a lot being written about staying home these days. Discomfort. Anxiety. Isolation. Depression. The truth is, many of us struggled with “home” even before the pandemic. I don’t have the answers. But I can tell you how having a dog makes a huge… Continue Reading “Finding Home – With a Dog”
Home, in the most fundamental sense, is where are essential needs are met. During the Covid19 pandemic, many Americans are struggling to keep a roof over their head. Others are wrestling with what it means to feel safe. Where does the need for home fit within a struggling economy?
“My story starts where every man’s story starts: with mom.” Mom is our very first home. Every one of us began our lives in our mother’s womb. Here we were nurtured, fed, protected, and grew until we were old enough, developed enough, to leave… Continue Reading “Mom is a Metaphor for Home”
I’m starting to see more articles and essays on home. Which is not surprising since most of us are at home more than ever these days. But in particular, there is a theme about how home is changing now that we are sheltered in… Continue Reading “Home is Not Changing, We Are”